I have been hit on three times in the last week. This is perplexing to me. Prior to this week, I may have been hit on three times in a year.
I am not ugly, but I am no longer a twenty something babe either. I don't hang out at bars. In fact, I don't get out much at all. I would consider myself average. I am overweight (I blame it on the three kids, but it probably goes back to college:)), but have always been fortunate enough to carry it well. No one ever believes me when I tell them how much I weigh. I maintain an hourglass figure...curvy, I suppose you would call it. I am grateful that my weight seems to be evenly distributed. My features are decent, but nothing outstanding. Average height.
My husband thinks I am hot, which is really all that matters. Plus he likes my rack.
But three times....IN A WEEK?? They were all places I frequent...my workout place, the grocery store, and my kids' school.
Can deferring, submitting, surrendering (or whatever else you want to call it) to my husband attract other males? One being ten years my junior. Shocking to say the least. Is it because I am edging closer to 40...a little Mrs. Robinson? Although, only one was younger...the other two I would guess were a tad older than me.
All three incidents were harmless and kind of boosted my confidence a bit, but I am perplexed.
Also, my husband has been quite, shall we say, horny, lately. And he wasn't "not horny" before. He probably would have been happy doing it every day...now he is stopping me in the hallway for a hot kiss, coming up behind me to kiss my neck while I do dishes, waking up and going to bed raring to go. Holy cow!
Don't get me wrong...I am happy he finds me attractive...and kind of pleased that I am still attractive to others. But I haven't changed anything externally...no new clothes, haircut, makeup...except for my husband in the evening sometimes. I sort of get his transformation, I guess. I hope I am a bit less shrewish. But how would anyone else notice?
I don't know...maybe reading too much into it. Maybe I am inadvertently releasing extra pheromones this week or something.
It sounds like I am complaining...I'm not...I guess I should just enjoy the extra attention and come up with some good comebacks. Although I do see a post coming up in the near future in regards to my husband. There is a blog I read where she is choosing this year to never turn down her husband...yes, she deserves some sort of award. I know some of you do the same...but, sometimes I just don't feel like it. But that is a whole other post............
Weird personal question, but are you ovulating? Men subconsciously know when women are (and women subconsciously advertise they are), and act a little more interested :)
ReplyDeleteYou may be feeling a little sexier from being submissive to your husband, and showing it in your body language. It might be multiple things, a perfect storm of circumstances. Enjoy it! That happens to me every now and then, it's so weird that it seems to happen all at once.
No, but I had heard that...I actually had my period last week. Sorry TMI.
DeleteMaybe so...especially with his extra interest. Who knows?:) I keep thinking "Did I do something different", but can't come up with anything.
I suppose I should just enjoy it.
LOL...Um I don't think it is uncommon. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't ENJOY it!
ReplyDeleteI found the same thing too! I was at a party over Halloween, and I wanted to hide! and some of them were like 25 years old...it was kinda creepy actually.
But more importantly, my husband, who NEVER was the 'let me at her' guy is very much that way now! Seriously when I say NEVER was I mean it. Once when we were first married, long before kids ( when I had a lovely oval belly button as opposed to the winking eye I have now) I greeted him at the door in nothing but an apron. He questioned how sanitary that was...argh!
AS far as the never saying No thing..it has it's benefits, let me tell ya!
I think it is like the dressing pretty thing- You feel softer and more feminine and it brings the bees to the flower.
You know everyone says that...about the not saying no thing...but sometimes my control monster comes out and I just do not feel like it. I am trying to address that, because I know that it makes my husband feel unwanted.
DeleteBelly button...hehehe...that is funny. It is amazing how kids change your body.
Oh well, I shall enjoy the attention...and dance around the house singing Kings of Leon-"Sex on Fire"...just kidding...well, at least not while the kids are around!!!
well the saying no thing when THEY know you can't say no...whole other ball game...I mean if I really pushed it, sure it wouldn't happen, but is gets...HOT *wink* and then you DON'T want to say no
DeleteGood for you!
ReplyDeleteIt's like getting ID'd for alcohol...makes you feel good. LOL
You should enjoy it.
Thanks!
DeleteEnjoy it.
ReplyDeleteThanks! I think I will...even if it is shortlived.
Deletejust enjoy the attention. i think it has something to do with the way you carry yourself knowing that you are powerful and confident in your submission to your husband. (in a good way!!)
ReplyDeleteit's the confidence that attracts them.
and the thing about not saying no? just think of it this way.
step 1 - decide that you cannot say no (regardless of how you may be feeling when the time comes)
step 2 - tell him that you have decided to always be available to him
step 3 - enjoy your submission to his desire when he wishes to claim you as his own - that submission alone is enough to get me in the mood even if i weren't initially.
good luck!!
That is going to be a process...but I am trying:)
DeleteVery interesting! I often walk around the grocery store and such places and observe physically beautiful women looking very surly. I sure wouldn't want to approach them. It makes me wonder if we as changed, much more happy and content women make a physical impression on men.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you are doing, it has to be good.
Very beautiful picture...are you going to change it when you knock off the spikes? Or are you starting to bloom, and as time goes on in your journey you'll find more cactus pictures that show more flowers in bloom?
ReplyDeleteEither way focus on the flower not the spikes...Oh and don't forget those bees !
Thanks! I took it on a family vacation. I was thinking my heart is the flower and good luck to anyone trying to get to it without getting poked. I hope to change my picture eventually, but it is a good visual even when completely changed it might be a good reminder:)
DeleteYou took that picture? Wow...colour me impressed! I think it is perfect for what you are saying!
DeleteThanks! It's the camera...not me:)
DeleteI do know what you are writing; it just seems a little confusing and not sure what to make of the outside attention. As for the attention from your husband, it is that submission is very feminine and the feminine definitely does things to bring out the masculine (and the playful). Enjoy.
ReplyDeleteThanks for coming by...I really liked your deferring definition on your page...submission to me has such a negative conotation...trying to get over that.
DeleteAre you confused by what I am doing? If so, me too:) If you are confused about my writing, I'm sorry if it wasn't clear. Reading my "The Pants" post is probably a good picture of what I am trying to do in my marriage.
I will try to enjoy it:) Who knew submission would have all these added benefits:)
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I'm sorry if my comment wasn't clear, I wasn't confused by what you wrote; if anything I could have written it myself. What I was trying to say was that I share your confusion, that you are unsure what to make of the outside attention. I felt just as confused and unsure as you when outside attention came my way. I couldn't wrap my head around it. I tried to make excuses for it, that I had to be mistaken about the attention, but when my children and my husband witnessed it, I couldn't deny it had happened. I questioned the reasons just as you do in this post but could only come to the conclusion that it had something to do with the submission I was developing within myself which brought out my femininity. I will read back on some of your old posts; thank you for giving me a starting point.
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