Bea was ready to unleash Operation Reconnect...(cough, cough) Seduce my Husband. Well, it was a success, sort of. So I took a shower, shaved, trimmed, plucked, lotioned, perfumed, clipped, powdered, made up, flattened, etc. Men...I hope you appreciate what your woman does for you:) I probably could have just come to bed naked...but I enjoy the work up a little too.
I put on a dress (nothing fancy...just a t-shirt dress) and fancy panties...gotta put on the fancy panties...oohh funny story about that. I was getting dressed and my three year old needed to go to the bathroom. She still needs help, so she came in to my bathroom and I was just in my underthings...she let out this big "Ooooohhhh Mommy, your panties are soooooo pretty!" She then proceeded to show me her pretty Dora panties and I ooohhhed and ahhhed over them. My seven year old walks in...takes one look at us and goes..."Ughh" covers his eyes and leaves the room:)
So, Levi gets home and immediately notices. Hmmm...that might not be such a good thing that he can take one look at me and just know. Maybe I need to up my day to day game around here. I was cooking dinner and he does this awesome thing where he sidles up behind me like a cowboy...smacks my rear and then kisses the back of my neck and asks "How's my woman?"...duh...it's getting a little hot in here.
We had an awesome night and an amazing weekend...we were very busy...if you know what I mean. But I still feel like there is something in the way of real connection. He is very focused on work right now and it didn't help that all our germ swapping, I mean kissing had us both come down with a stomach bug yesterday...ewww. Good news: I lost two pounds...pretty sure that will come back, but I can be excited about something today.
So what's the dill, pickle? I don't know what to do to help him...he seems like he is not really here...you know? He always seems a world away...we are connecting in the bedroom, but not much otherwise.
I wish he understood that I need some of this:
To keep up with this:
I need him, I need connection, I need to know he loves me and not just in the bedroom. It is better for me if I feel connected to him...so what to do? I don't want to stress him out or make him feel like he is doing something wrong.
Operation Seduce my Husband! I love it! I have so done that:) hehe! And love how you and your daughter oohhh'd and ahhh'd over the panties! :)
ReplyDeleteOkay I am with you on the connecting part.....I have to have that part. Sure we can have the sex and it is great but if we are not mentally connected then I just feel like a part is missing. Mr. B has been working a lot and really "not here" as well as me being gone a good bit as well. When he gets like that, where he is just not really "at home" when he is "home", I just try to figure out what is going on and set aside some "reconnect time" for us. Either go sit in our bedroom and just talk and laugh about nothing or go on a date. Either way, we are connecting....having conversation....enjoying each other. And I really think you have to have that part of it first and foremost.
Belle:)
Thanks Belle, You are right. We have been so busy lately that we haven't had a date or connect time after the kids are in bed. I don't know how to tell him I need that. The sex is great but you are so correct...when you are connected it is phenomenal.
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Maybe why don't you plan a special night for yall? Maybe cook him dinner at home and have an "at home" date.....I have found those are usually lots of fun....especially after the table is cleaned off! HA! :) Oh I am getting off track! haha! But seriously....I would just ask him if yall could have a date night. Or maybe email him if you don't want to ask him in person. I find that when I have trouble talking to Mr. B about something, I either do it when we are in bed, and the lights are out....or I send him an email. Whatever way you decide to talk to him is fine...everyone has their own way....but just make sure you do just that....talk to him....communication:) It does wonderful things:)
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I don't know Bea, but the bedroom is a good start! I'm sure you'll get some good advice here from others!
ReplyDeleteTo true:) and it is good!
DeleteBea sweetie...communication...do this ring a bell? ;) Reach out to him and calmly tell him that you miss just the 'nothing important, nothing scheduled, nothing major, nothing wrong' chats...sometimes life gets in the way and we need to open the door to us...with no blame or accusation. I have faith that you two will work this out.
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I wish it wasn't so hard...I don't know what to say and part of me wishes that he would want this and initiate it to..connecting...he has no problem initiating the other:)
DeleteHello, this is my first time visiting here and I wanted to say hello. I understand about the need to connect in the bedroom and out. I love the reaction of your kids. My 7 year old has walked in on me getting dressed in fancy nightgowns and panties and has told me how pretty, too. :-) Best wishes, Terpsichore
ReplyDeleteThanks Terpsichore! I am glad you came by to visit. It was really funny to tell Levi later how his daughter wanted pretty panties. Funny for me anyway!
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Here's to success! Love the title. ;)
ReplyDeleteFirst...what's the deal with the kitchen? I get more of those from the back hugs and kisses when I'm cooking than any other time. I wonder if it's some sort of connection with their tummies? :)
ReplyDeleteThe connecting part...I hear you and it is tough, especially when we are too busy and don't have enough time. Here we have the luxury of "maintenance" where we end up with a scheduled time to talk, connect and slow down. Would Levi be up to a once a week time on the weekend when you could just talk?