Going the Distance

"We're going the distance...we're going for speed...she's all alone...all alone in her time of need..."
(Cake..."Going the Distance")

Ok, enough of the musical break.  I have been reading a lot of blogs lately that are talking about distance.  What is it with January?  I am so over January!  So what is it that makes are lives start to look like this?:

   

Is it this?

  

Probably not conducive to cuddle time...hmmm...or is it lack of this?

We all need vitamin D...women are especially vulnerable to being deficient in this vitamin...you should have this checked regularly...I was recently told that my Vitamin D was dangerously low...which over time can cause an increased risk in cardiovascular disease, bone loss, and many other things that I now fix with a daily dose of 1,000 IU of vitamin D (I am not a doctor...this is the amount my doctor prescribed for me to take...check with yours for your proper dose).  In the short term...vitamin D deficiency can make you tired, depressed, and make you more susceptible to respiratory illness.  In January it is near impossible to get enough the natural way, especially when your world looks like this (which mine doesn't):



and besides I look like this if I try to get it the natural way:

And then my dermatologist would freak out!  The sun does not like me.  Vitamins are good and sunscreen...wear sunscreen:)  Oh and big hats and umbrellas for shade.




This is my spot.
(You know it is bad when your friends and family and even your kids say...Bea have you reapplied...EVERY HOUR!!)

The distance might also be caused by this:





Then there is all of this: The Post Holiday Hangover






(Levi and I avoid this one by putting $100 aside every month for Christmas...then we pay cash for everything and have a Christmas budget...It has made giving fun again)



(Ugh...I do have this though, Levi doesn't...he can eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound...Pfttt!)

And before you know it...this has grown between you:

  

I am learning that when men have an issue that they are dealing with that they like to figure it out and often need space (correct me if I am wrong).  Well, if they take a while, as some problems inevitably do, then the women in their lives start to freak out (still with me?).  Why?  Because we take it personally...we think that it must be us...so then we shut down and withdraw.

Someone needs to reach across the canyon...does it really matter who?  Why do I feel like it needs to be Levi...because I am stubborn?  I don't know, but there are times when I dig my heels in and wait and the longer it takes, the smaller I feel.  Why is it so hard?  Why doesn't he know that sometimes I just need a hug or a thanks honey for all that you do and I am just in my head right now?

I am starting to feel the distance too.  In my case...quite literally as Levi drives 160 miles a day to get to work and back.  He is very focused on work right now...as he should be, but week 2 is wearing on us both and I can feel us starting to drift.  So I sent him a sexy text, and I am working extra hard today to make sure the house is a haven...if this doesn't work, then I am a little nervous about the small crack turning into this canyon above.

Well, if it doesn't...there is only 7 more days of January.
It's got to get better, right?

So...I am going to reach across the crack...
I got this...
I hope:)