Men...Listen Up!!

I am directing this post to the men who may read my blog or for you ladies to show your husbands.  It's nagging and nosy and bossy, but I am taking one for the team here.  Your wife is tired of trying to tell you.

Please do two things for me:

Get a Physical once a year

and

Make a Will

If you don't want to do it for yourselves then at least do it for your wives!!  If you aren't married...do it for your mother!  Do it for your kids! Just do it for goodness sake.

I know, I know...you hate doctors right?  Well, we wives would like you to be around well into our old age.  We don't want to do all this work together and then have no one to share our dreams with.  A husband and father a couple of doors down from me wasn't feeling well and put off going to a doctor about it.  Unfortunately, he ended up in the hospital with a heart condition and passed away leaving a wife and two young boys...without a will.

So it may have just been his time...I get that.  His wife however was feeling guilty because she didn't make him go to the doctor...she was left wondering if she should have been a nag and made him go sooner.  I know this is part of her grieving process and I assured her that she did all she could, but gentleman, COME ON...we are not your mothers.  If you haven't been to a doctor in years...make a dang appointment. This includes dentists...many diseases start with poor dental hygiene, including heart disease.  Men...listen up...whining is not attractive...it's what kids do and I know you do not want to be treated like one.  Don't believe me? Go home and tell your spouse that you have made appointments for the two of you to get physicals and afterwards you will take her to lunch sans kids.  If, after she gets over her shock of course, she isn't excited...well, I would be shocked!

Now we come to the second part of my directive: make a will.  It is cheap. It is easy.  It is peace of mind and makes things easier on those you are leaving behind.  Even if you live in a community property state where everything is left to your spouse in the case of your death, when you neglect to leave a will...your spouse will still have to go through a pain in the rear legal process that takes forever.  For example, because my neighbor did not have a will, his wife could not sell his car until probate was complete and still had to make the payments.  If he had had a will, it would have gone much faster.

Levi and I have a very simple will.  It says that the spouse left behind will receive everything and if God forbid something happened to both of us then we have stated who would care for our children.  Do you really want the state to decide who will care for your children?!!  Do you want your remaining family fighting over them?  We didn't.  We also chose someone responsible to be our executor...someone we knew would work hard selling all our junk so our kids would be taken care of.  We added an addendum notarized and signed by Levi and I to list things we would like our children or other family members to have which is all that is required in our state.  If you are not done with your family, you can add under the names of your children a phrase that says "and any subsequent children from this union" or some such.  Every state is different and I am not a lawyer so you will have to check the laws in your state, but wills make everything easier and don't you want it to be easier on your spouse if he/she is grieving your loss!

So pull on your big boy pants and go to the doctor and then the lawyer's office.  You can even have a will made online!!  Ladies, for the very few of you who have not been to the doctor either...GO!  So many possibly dangerous things are found from simple check ups.

I will step down from my soap box now...thank you.