Femininity:Habits

Every time I think of breaking habits, I think of this song:

I don't even like this song....ugh....so annoying.  Anyway, I have in the past year broken some bad habits and practiced some good ones.  None of my bad habits were too awful.  I used to smoke in college and shortly after...now, that was a nasty habit.  I realize that my habits aren't all that bad, but I am trying to be more feminine and I have found that certain habits help and some do not.

Some unladylike bad habits that are hard to break:

 

Chewing Gum

 

I loved my gum...bubbles, smacking and all.  Until one morning I awoke with a horrible case of TMJ.  I couldn't eat....talk....it was horribly painful.  I went to the dentist and her advice...a mouth guard (I was clenching in my sleep), muscle relaxers until it felt better and I was sleeping better, and NO MORE GUM.  Apparently not only is gum not good for your teeth and can cause or worsen TMJ, but it also gives you gas and well, how do I put this lightly, it's not very attractive.  I miss my gum:(

 

Nail Biting

 

I bite my nails and cuticles.  Ugh...I think mostly it is due to nervousness and boredom.  If I get a manicure and have my nails painted then I don't bite them, so I am trying to keep my nails manicured to curb this habit. 

 

 

Swearing

 

I don't do it often and never in front of the kids, but swearing is an unladylike habit.  I know this and yet, for some reason when I write, I sometimes wish to place a few $(&*# in my writing...maybe so I can express my nonverbal cues of how #&#$&%(* upset I am about something?  I don't know, but am trying to do better in this area.

 

 

Lip Biting

 

I have been told that I have beautiful lips, so why am I messing them up?  I don't know, but I need to cut it out...my lips get slightly chapped and I bite the layer of skin off.  Probably another nervous habit...what to do with all this nervous energy?  Wearing lip gloss helps a bit.  Any other thoughts on this one would be much appreciated.

 



Some Habits that make me feel more feminine:

 

 

Smiling

 

Smiling changes a person's face.  I used to try to get through a place unnoticed.  I would not make eye contact and would just go about my day.  I have begun to smile.  At EVERYONE.  Yes, I am the crazy lady that smiles at everyone and you know what?  It feels good.  At first it felt awkward and a few people gave me funny looks...geez how embarrassing:), but occasionally someone whom I wouldn't have even noticed before smiles back and their whole face changes.  They would go from serious to glowing, just because they smiled.  Occasionally, I even say hi or good morning.  It only was really awkward once when I smiled at a guy at the grocery store and he hit on me...dude, I wasn't hitting on you...just smiling here:)  I didn't really say that...I mumbled something along the lines of "I'm happily married, but thank you."  Try it:) Smiling, not hitting on someone.

 

Grooming

 

 

Nothing like a great haircut to make you feel better about your appearance...I don't get mine cut often enough, but love it when I do.  Most men appear to like long hair...Levi is weird...he likes mine short...not super short, just shoulder short.  Ask your man what he likes.

 

 

Waxing/Shaving/Plucking and other forms of torture: yes, I do them, although I no longer wax my bikini area.  No longer makes it sound like I have done it often...only once.  Good grief...apparently people with sensitive and fair skin can sometimes break blood vessels...By the time I left, my bikini area looked like it caught the measles.  Shaving for me, thank you.  When your husband cringes at your efforts after waxing, I think it is safe to say he gets it and won't hold it against you.  I need to shave my legs more often...having light hair has it's benefits until your man touches your legs.

 

 

 

Nails: I love having my nails done, but it is expensive...I do them at home most of the time, but am bad about it...trying to improve here.

 

Skin so soft: I have tried to make it a habit to put on lotion every night. I love Levi's hands on me...making it as soft as possible so he will do it often...very often...like a lot.

 

 

If I feel more feminine, then I act more feminine...which to me translates: If I feel more feminine, then I might not act like a controlling shrew and will be very attractive to my husband which means I might have some mind blowing sex, intimacy, and happiness.  Just a thought...